The Distaff
Why Women Should
Come to the Lord

Deborah L. Rowen

Did you see the pictures of the women in Afghanistan on the evening news recently? They were literally covered head to foot by heavy gray veils. Even their faces were covered because their country has fallen under the control of a militant Islamic group. These women have lost all of their basic human rights: they cannot have a job (only beg) and they cannot have any health care. This horror is brought about by a religion. In Saudi Arabia, a woman who had seven babies was not allowed to come home by her in-laws because a western reporter had photographed her. She is the victim of her religion. These cases made me think about how our Lord treated women while he walked with us, what he offers in this life, and for eternity. Why should women come to the Lord?

The Lord's Attitude Toward Women

Protection - In our Lord's first recorded sermon, he spoke about the condition of women in the marriage covenant. He stressed man's obligation of purity toward women and re-established His law about divorce as it was intended from the beginning (Matt. 5:27-32). Again in Matt. 19:7-9, Jesus defined the protection of women in marriage: she may be divorced only for adultery, not for any other reason such as a bad temper or inability to cook. This was a problem in Bible times because the Jews had perverted the law so that a woman could be turned out of her home to the streets and separated from her children at her husband's whim. Jesus said it must not be so; a woman is protected in her home by his law. The Lord gave further instructions in 1 Peter 3:7: "Likewise you husbands, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered."

In a gospel meeting, Harry Osborne explained this weaker vessel as in the value of fine china compared to plastic ware. China is weaker than plastic but it is also much more precious and valuable.

Compassion - “And suddenly, a woman who had a flow of blood for twelve years came from behind and touched the hem of his garment" (Matt. 9:20). On his way to raise a little girl from the dead Jesus turned to this woman and said, "Be of good cheer, daughter; your faith has made you well.” Jesus healed Mary Magdalene of seven demons (Luke 8:2). She (along with other women whom He had healed) provided for his sustenance and Mary Magdalene was the first to see the risen Lord (Mark 16:9). Our Lord had compassion for the illnesses and spiritual problems of women while he was here. He stopped to heal them and earned their devotion throughout his travels, even to the cross.

Honor - At the time Jesus visited the earth, there was a terrible enmity between Jew and Samaritan. The Jews considered the Samaritans impure and unclean because of their mixed bloodline and unlawful religious practices. A Jew would travel north by crossing the Jordan to the east side in order to bypass Samaria. It is remarkable that a Jew would purposely go to Samaria to teach as Jesus did in John 4. It is even more remarkable that he would stop to teach a Samaritan woman, since women were considered inferior and not spoken to in public. Notice in John 4:27 the disciples marveled that he spoke to a woman saying, "Why are you talking to her?" Here Jesus laid down the principle that "as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ... there is neither male nor female: for you are all one in Christ Jesus" (Gal. 3:28). Under the law of Christ, women are held in honor and are equal to men in the true equality of eternal life (John 4:13-14).

Friendship - Jesus had friends at Bethany with whom he liked to stay. He loved Martha and her sister, Mary (John 11:5). When he was there, Mary sat at His feet and heard His word (Luke 11:39). When their brother died, Jesus came, wept with them and raised Lazarus from the tomb. The Lord was close to these women. He cared about the routine of their daily lives and the tragedy of their loss. He didn't hold himself aloof from women. He was a friend to them.

The Lord's Attitude Toward our Children

Our children are perhaps the most precious part of our mortal life. We love them so much that they are like our very heart walking beside us. When people brought their children to Jesus for his blessings, the disciples tried to stop them, but Jesus intervened, saying, "Let the little children come to me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven." Then he laid his hands on them (Matt 19:14). We can know that the Lord loves our children at least as much as we do: even more, for he died for them. “Beloved let us love one another, for Love is of God...In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world that we might live through him" (I John 4:7-9).

The Lord loved our children enough to die for us that we may live with them forever in his blessed presence. Remember he offered the Samaritan women at the well "living water" that would “spring up into everlasting life” (John 4:14).

Only the Lord Can Give Eternal Life

The most important reason why women should come to the Lord is that only by his way may we obtain salvation. In a conversation with Martha, Jesus asserted, “I am the resurrection and the life, he who believes in me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in me shall never die" (John 11:25-26). In John 14:6, Jesus said "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." Since Jesus is the only way to salvation, we must learn his law for obtaining it: "For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death" (Rom. 8:2).

The first logical step to salvation is to hear the law. "How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard?" (Rom. 10:14). What you must hear is that "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God" (John 1:12). Also, "This Jesus God has raised up, of which we are all witnesses. Therefore let all the house of Israel know assuredly that God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Christ" (Acts 2:32, 36).

Having heard of him, we must believe. "For without faith it is impossible to please him, for he who comes to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him" (Heb. 11:6). You must believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, who came to earth to be the perfect sacrifice for sin that you may have eternal life.

On believing this gospel, you must repent of all Your wrongdoing: "Truly, these times of ignorance God overlooked, but now commands all men everywhere to repent” (Acts 17:30). Jesus said in Luke 13:3: “Unless you repent you will all likewise perish.” The Lord is “not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance” (2 Pet. 3:9).

One must also confess that Jesus is the Son of God: "Now as they went down the road they came to some water. And the eunuch said, ‘See here is water. What hinders me from being baptized?’ Then Philip said, ‘If you believe with all your heart, you may.’ And he answered and said, ‘I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God’” (Acts 8:36-37). In Romans 10:9, the scripture says to confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus.

 Those who have believed and repented are eligible to be baptized. "Then Peter said them, ‘Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins: and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit, For the promise is to you and to your children, and to all who are afar off, as many as the Lord our God will call.’ And with many other words he testified and exhorted them, saying, ‘Be saved from this perverse generation.’ Then those who gladly received his word were baptized: and that day about three thousand souls were added to them" (Acts 2: 38-41). Even as the Ethiopian eunuch of Acts 8, these people were baptized immediately and salvation was dependent on it. It is the way we put on Christ (Ga1. 4:27) and how we receive the benefits of his death.

"Therefore we were buried with him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father. even so we also should walk in newness of life" (Rom. 6:4).

We are "buried with him in baptism, in which you also were raised with him through faith in the working of God, who raised him from the dead" (Col 2:12).

When we have followed this pattern of salvation given in the word of God, we are added to the Lord's church (Acts 2:47). If we are “faithful unto death” (Rev. 2:10) we receive the crown of life and may know that we have the "fountain of water springing up into everlasting life" (John 4:14)


There are many reasons why women should come to the Lord and this list could go on. The most important reason is to obtain salvation from the sentence of death caused by our sin. We may be comforted in knowing our Lord's loving attitude toward women of protection, compassion, honor, and friendship. We can be assured that our Lord loves our children as much as we do and has provided a way for them to be with us forever. One need only to obey the simple plan of salvation given by God in His word.

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